Assessment of Behavior, Cognition, & Emotion Regulation In Children and Adolescents Lab
(ABC-ERICA Lab)
Managing Emotions
What is Self-Regulation?
Self-regulation is a child’s ability to control his or her behavior or emotions. It develops over time, and involves many aspects of social, emotional, and cognitive development. Self-regulation can also be thought of as the successful integration of emotion (what a child feels) and cognition
(what a child knows or can do) resulting in appropriate behavior.
Some other things to know about self-regulation:
Self-regulation is not related to intelligence.
Factors that help shape how well a child can self-regulate include:
*AGE:
Self-regulation develops as children grow.
*BIOLOGY:
Your child’s temperament and how he responds to stressful situations affect how and when he develops self-regulation.
*RELATIONSHIPS:
Your interaction with your child, including how you accommodate his temperament and respond to his needs, affect how he learns to self-regulate.
*COGNITION:
Using language (especially naming emotions) helps develop self-regulation and sets the stage for the child’s future learning.
Why Self-Regulation Matters:
Self-regulation appears to help children solve problems and develop coping strategies.
Self-regulation includes the ability to focus and to control impulses. The sooner a child can self-regulate, the sooner
she will be prepared for school, where academic and social success require her to think for herself and meet the
expectations of others.
Children who don’t learn to self-regulate usually have a harder time transitioning to school. Being “ready for kindergarten” means knowing letters, colors, and numbers, but also means being able to sit still during circle time and get along with others.
What to Expect, and When:
INFANCY: Self Soothing
It is critical to understand that until your baby is at least six
months old, he relies entirely on caregivers to manage his
stress – he has no ability to self-regulate. This is why we say
that “you can’t spoil a baby” and that you need to respond to
your baby’s cues quickly and consistently.
Infants rely on caregivers to respond to their signals and meet
their needs for food, sleep, comfort, and interaction.
During the first year, babies learn how it feels to have their
needs met, and gradually learn to create that feeling (known
as “self-soothing”) with less help from you.
Through this maturation process, the baby learns ways to
calm himself when upset.
TODDLERHOOD: Managing Emotions
During the toddler stage, children learn more about feelings,
and begin to connect situations to emotions.
This is a difficult, yet important time of growth for children,
often filled with displays of emotional extremes (ranging
from excitement to frustration).
As children’s self-regulation and language skills develop, their
temper tantrums and emotional outbursts often become
more manageable and happen less often.
PRESCHOOL YEARS: Emotions as Social Expresion
Between the ages of 3 and 5, children begin to understand
the relationship between their feelings and their behavior.
This means that during these years, it is critical for parents
and caregivers to help children identify and implement self-
regulation strategies, such as practicing waiting and naming
emotions.
For parents of preschool children, this involves setting limits
and expectations for behavior. Preschool-age children have
greater control over their impulses, and they are starting to
think before they act.
HOW CAN PARENTS HELP?
Provide structure and predictability.
Model self-control and self-regulation in your words and
actions when you are frustrated, upset, or excited.
Seek help. If your child is struggling with managing her
emotions or behavior, early identification and intervention
can support both you and your child in developing these
important skills.
For Infants:
Be responsive to your baby’s needs, such as hunger or
tiredness. When your baby cries, pick him up.
Look for overstimulation cues such as turning away or
arching the back; when they occur, give your baby a break
and reduce the amount of stimulation.
For Toddlers and Preschoolers:
Find ways to say yes rather than no. For example, “You can
bang this pot with a spoon” instead of “Don’t bang on the
glass table.”
Tell them what is possible rather than what is not. For
example, say “Please walk” rather than “Don’t run.”
Name emotions, using words like happy, sad, embarrassed,
and proud to describe how you feel.
Anticipate transitions and announce changes to normal daily
routines well in advance.
Offer opportunities for creativity and play.
Be involved. Anticipate inappropriate behavior and
re-direct it.