Assessment of Behavior, Cognition, & Emotion Regulation In Children and Adolescents Lab
(ABC-ERICA Lab)
Guidelines for Positive Parental Communication
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Keep your statements short and to the point
Make your point in 2 to 3 sentences
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Focus on objective information
Avoid the “blame game”
Discuss what is wrong from your perspective about a situation
Point out the behavior of the other person, not the assumed emotion behind the behavior
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Focus on “I” statements
Talk from the first person
Example: instead of, “You make me stressed when you do that” try “I feel this is a problem because it creates stress for me”
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Reflect back what you heard
Ensures the listener and speaker are on the same page
Gives speaker an opportunity to clarify, if needed
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Avoid “extreme” language
Always, never
Hate
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Hold discussions when there is time
Don’t discuss important issues when there isn’t time to fully talk about them
Minimize disruptions (e.g., telephone) during conversation
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Come to a resolution
Try to resolve the problem, preferably with an action plan
If emotions arise, table conversation until everyone is calm
If the issue needs to be tabled, come back to it